Q.Did Keith propose to Chi-An, or did Chi-An propose to Keith? And how and when did it happen?
A.Well, as is typical of our relationship, and as we had predicted years ago, it was a mutual decision. It goes something like this: we'd been discussing marriage as an abstract, off and on, for about a year. Sometime in March of 1998 we started talking about a specific year. And then one night while washing dishes, we narrowed it down to August 1999. Then one of us turns to the other and says, "Hey, does this mean we're engaged?" And then the other says, "Yeah, I guess so. AAAAAAAAHHHH!"
After we'd calmed down and gotten used to the idea, we called our parents. Then the lengthy process of notifying Chi-An's family. Notifying the CTY crowd involved a particularly intricate display of impishness on April Fools' Day. By now we're pretty used to the idea; we've even gotten used to using the words "fiancé/e". Eek. I think we're getting old.
Q. How long have you known each other?
A. We first met in 1994, which means about 3 1/2 years to engagement, and 5 years to marriage.
Q. Did Keith buy Chi-An an engagement ring, and how big is the diamond?
A. Boy, you're asking the crass questions, huh? We selected an engagement ring together. It's silver, with five segments molded to look like bamboo. Each segment has the Chinese character for double happiness engraved on it. Here's a picture of it (it's the silver one).
Q. Where is your wedding going to be? What is it going to be like?
A. It's going to be held on August 7, 1999, in Stern Grove, which is a public park in San Francisco at 19th and Sloat Avenues. The site has a Victorian house, the Sigmund Stern Grove Clubhouse, also known as the Trocadero. Follow this link for a history of Stern Grove.
You can also go to this page to see some pictures of the Stern Grove house and grounds.
The ceremony will be held outside, with a brunch reception served inside. We'd like to incorporate wedding traditions from our families' various cultures. Best guess at this point is that it will involve waterguns, if Keith gets his way.
Q. Is Chi-An wearing a traditional white wedding gown?
A. You're kidding, right? Consider it a minor miracle to see me in a long dress, and never mind the color issue.
Q. Where are you going for your honeymoon?
A. We had lots of great but not entirely feasible ideas for this, including going to Africa on safari and driving across the country in search of root beer. However, we've pretty much settled on Banff. (Update: we actually ended up going to Jasper.)